Exerpt from ebook “52 Quotes to live by Zett Why

When criticizing, you harm yourself!

Buddhism wisdom says – the lotus blossoms in the marsh. It means that only in facing obstacles do we have an ability to realize our potential. In this article, I would like to talk more about another human quality – being critical.

Looking at it from a psychological view, “constructive” criticism is understood as a mechanism for self-defense and ego affirmation. We denigrate others in order to raise ourselves up in comparison. When you persuade yourself that there is only shit around you, the “golden effect” appears…

From one side it may seem that there’s nothing inherently wrong with a bigger or smaller critique, but everything works in such a way that there are no separate processes – all is related, and makes up an entire complex.

“Constructive” criticism ruins creation

Maybe you can argue that constructive criticism is a healthy thing that encourages us to develop. I think that it’s important here to differentiate between positive criticism, and criticism based on the exaltation of yourself. To see how it works on people around you, do an uncomplicated experiment with children. Once you have identified their creative purposes, try to criticize them and watch their reactions. Many will lose their wish to continue games, and some will close up and refuse to communicate further. Then do an opposite experiment. Before the children start to play, or are already at the beginning of an activity, persuade them that you believe they will create something unique. Give your trust in advance. You will see how the children’s maximum potential will come out and how they will try to fulfill your expectations and trust. What is valid for children is also valid for adults. The external forms are different, but the essence is the same…

Exerpt from ebook “52 Quotes to live by